“Life is about rejecting
the obstacles and immersing into the now.”
Anthony de Mello
1. Accept
everything you cannot influence. Even if
something doesn’t seem reasonable or just – the only way to get passed it is to
accept it’s occurrence and move on.
2. Needing someone or something creates
attachment. Attachment is believing that you can’t be happy if you don’t own a
certain thing or person. Such thinking makes you miserable, because you either
desire to have it or are afraid to lose it. The key is to detach from everything and everyone, as independence
is the only way to get rid of loneliness for good.
3. First you need to die (metaphorically!). Meditate on your own death every day.
Get used to the fact that you will in fact die someday. Imagine your dead body and be
in peace with the very fact of the possibility. Familiarize yourself with the idea of dying and you will
never be afraid of death again.
4.
Get rid of your ego.
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When they say
you’re great – accept it, but don’t feel better because of it.
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When they
hurt you – accept it and move on, don’t feel sorry for yourself.
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When you
accomplish something – accept it and don’t brag about it.
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When you fail
– accept it and learn from it.
5.
Whatever
someone says about you, it’s just their opinion that does not define you as a
person. Listen, accept and move on.
6. Focus on good
things in life. Do the job
because you love doing it, laugh and be with friends because you love laughing
and being with them, engage with things that interest you and immerse in them
fully. Don’t seek for praise or award for what you did.
7. Realize that you have been programmed in
certain ways and look beyond those programs. See the things as they are, not as you were told they were. Honors,
wins, prestige and power – they are all an illusion.
8. Learn to observe
the objects and people with no judgement, but only being aware that they are there. Don’t think about their
names, usefulness or purpose – accept and be aware of their reality. Go back to nature – observe the trees,
flowers, animals and stars in silence. Look at them as you were seeing them for
the first time in your life.
9. You don’t need to belong anywhere. You don’t need
to be “in love”. What your nature needs is to be free and to love truly with all
your heart.
10. True love
does not contain fear. Where is true love there’s no place for
demands, expectations and dependency. Your happiness does not depend on anyone
and anything else but you. Life is a symphony that plays constantly –
differently when you’re alone and when you’re with other people, but it never really
stops playing.
And in all of these...
Awareness, awareness and most of all –
awareness.
Wake up and be aware!
